Stay Classy

Stay Classy

‘Classy’ is a word rarely used anymore. When was the last time you heard someone say it? Better yet, when was the last time you heard someone say it and mean it? Class is a dying attribute in women. We live in a world where we are encouraged to be fit, strong, independant, to seek pleasure, and that our body should be celebrated by showing it off or by using it to manipulate others to get what we want. Some tell us to play it dumb and ride the coat tails of the richest man we can catch. Others tell us we don’t need men and that we can solve all our problems by relying on ourselves and our own abilities. With all these messages flying around, we’ve lost touch with the true meaning of beauty and what really makes a woman classy. Thankfully, God provided a manual:

A classy woman is a woman whose self-worth is not defined by the world but her Creator. She knows that “charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting” and that striving after secular beauty will not bring her happiness or joy (Provers 31:30). A classy woman “laughs at the days to come”, knowing that her path is paved with a purpose (Proverbs 31:25). She clothes herself in modesty, knowing her body is a temple and deserves respect (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). She knows that her body is beautiful, a work of art. She knows it can have the power to manipulate and so she is careful not to use it in shameful ways. A classy woman acknowledges her own faults and is forgiving of other’s. She is authentic. She is herself. She may not be poise, she may not be graceful, but she shows grace in how she treats the people around her. A classy woman shows God’s love through her words and her actions. She speaks her mind and is assertive but is loving in her boldness (Proverbs 31:26). A classy woman is independent of others but dependant on the Lord (Isaiah 26:4). She knows full well that stiving for perfection is futile, that she will never become all these things. However, she is crowned with the confidence that God loves her despite her failures and her flaws.

That is a classy woman.

Do you know any? I think there are more classy women out there than we think. So let’s bring back the word “classy”  and perpetutate the kind of woman we want to be, friend we want to have, and daughter we want to raise.

Stay classy!

Let’s Hear it for the Boys

Let’s Hear it for the Boys

You’ve probably seen or heard the phrase, “I’d rather have a Proverbs 31 woman than a Victoria’s Secret model”. This little campaign sparked out of Baylor University and caught fire. I am a huge supporter of this biblical campaign for many reasons. However, it has started me thinking why there isn’t a male-equivalent campaign. Yes, culture is attacking women, telling them they need to be rail thin, have big boobs, perfect skin, etc. etc. But culture is lying to men, too. The media is full of images of men that encourage sexual promiscuity, laziness, passivity, and other worldy passions. Any man on TV today fits this image. If I see another “family” show where the father is stupid and the wife rules the household, constantly repimanding her spouse for his laziness, I’m going to throw my remote out the window (or exit my Hulu window). This is percieved as “humor”. I don’t think there is anything humorous about a stupid, lazy man. That is not attractive and that is not ok. The other extreme is the “man’s man” who is tall, built, and highly sucessful. His success is determined by the clothes he wears, the car he drives, and the number of zeros in his salary. He controls his life by the credit card in his pocket and is admired by all. This image teaches men that money and success is the answer to all their problems and defines his worth. This leads to husbands and fathers who would rather provide for their families financially than emotionally. They would rather work overtime than spend time at home with their children. Now this doesn’t mean they don’t love their families, they have just been taught that this is the ‘right’ way to do things. The media also encourages sexual promiscuity in men of all ages. Boys are taught their worth is derived by the number women they sleep with (Just watch any show on ABC Family or even How I Met Your Mother, among others). Character’s lives are defined by the constant attempt to get laid and how to manipulate women to do so. To make matters worse, men who have chosen to remain sexually pure are portrayed as weak and are the butt of all the jokes. Staying ‘pure’ is seen as unrealistic, undesirable, and unmanly. Just like women, men are told they have to look a certain way to be handsome: big muscles, tall, athletic… Newsflash ladies, males models are airbrushed, too. Beauty is fleeting in men just as quickly as in women. Ryan Gosling is not always going to look that way. What is more important is the way he acts; His character. One’s character never fades.

As a women striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman, I can only wonder why there is such an emphasis on women. Men should be equally encouraged to pursue a Christ-like character: A man who loves his wife as Christ loves the church, giving himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25). A man who is faithful and loyal, giving honor to marriage (Proverbs 5:15, Hebrews 13:4). A man who doesn’t take advantage of the women in his life (Col. 3:19). A man who stands firm in his beliefs and who is courageous (1 Cor. 16:13). A man who is not passive, but subdues his world (Genesis 1:28, Psalm 8:3-8). A man who is merciful, just, and humble (Micah 6:8). A man who rules his household in a way that earns respect, not with laziness and passivity, and not in a way that engenders fear (1 Timothy 3:4-5). And, above all, a man who fears the Lord (Psalm 128:1-4).

These are the qualities and characteristics we should be encouraging in our sons, our fathers, our husbands, and our guy friends; encouraging men to be who God calls them to be, not this world.

If men would rather have a Proverbs 31 woman than a Victoria’s Secret model, then I’d rather have a godly man than a man who defines his worth by worldly standards and worldy pursuits.